Ep #20: When “I Know That” Isn’t Enough

by | Jan 13, 2021 | Podcast

When “I Know That” Isn’t Enough

Something that has been coming up for many of my clients lately is the difference between knowing something cognitively and actually believing it. Overachievers like us love reading all the books, listening to all the podcasts, and memorizing what we learn. But that doesn’t mean we really understand and experience what we learn. 

When life brings you people and experiences that say you’re unworthy, are you still willing to show up? In the face of scarcity, are you willing to live abundantly? When you believe deep down that you’re unworthy, you might struggle with this.

Join me on the podcast this week to find out if what you know is really enough to make you an expert. It takes courage to step out and live the experience of what you believe, and if you’re not there yet, don’t worry. I tell you exactly how to get on the path of living your truth today.

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What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • The difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it.
  • Why your scarcity thoughts and imposter thoughts keep coming up.
  • How to decide if you’re willing to live abundantly in times of scarcity.

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Full Episode Transcript:


You are listening to episode 20 of the Wealthy Happy Soul Podcast: When “I Know That” Isn’t Enough.

Welcome to The Wealthy Happy Soul Podcast, a show for high achievers who are ready to start enjoying the life they’ve worked so hard to create. Join me, your host and certified life coach Dr. Tangie, to learn how to start infusing the dedication you have for your career into living a truly fulfilling life. If you’re ready to finally gain the happiness your soul has been longing for, this podcast is for you.

Hello everybody. I am so happy you are here. Welcome to episode 20. And I’m just going to jump right in today and start with a quote that I love, love, love, love that I saw on the internet. And it reads, “The only difference between you and the leaders you follow is the difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it.” And I don’t know who wrote this quote but I love it because it is so true. Yet there is also this unspoken gap between actually knowing what to do and getting to the point where you can do those things on a consistent basis until it becomes a true habit for you.

And this has really been coming up a lot with so many of my clients this week. So I thought it would be a good topic to talk about today because knowing what to do is cool but it’s not enough. And it gives you this false sense of mastery in the world.

And if you are like me you could have an entirely separate doctorate in self-help, spirituality and meditative practices. And those are all really cool worlds to hang out in because you learn so many cool new things and it seems like every little new nugget of knowledge just expands the depth of who you are more, and more, and more and it’s really fun. And many of us overachievers are also really good at memorizing every detail of every book so we can tell all of our woo friends about all the new things that we’ve recently discovered.

And often if you are the most voracious reader amongst your group of friends then all your friends kind of begin to look at you as the expert on how to make it through life and how to make it through life during hard times. And they look at you as the person to go to when they need advice. And you may even begin to identify as the expert because you’ve read all the things and you know all the answers to all their questions based on whatever the guru of the day is teaching.

But then what happens is that you find yourself having to come face-to-face with your own set of problems. And sometimes you might even feel embarrassed or ashamed that these problems, they just keep coming up and you really don’t know how to stop it. You have areas in your own life where you feel stuck and you just don’t know how to get to the other side of the ravine. You want to feel happy but maybe you keep battling with being sad or unfulfilled no matter how many times you’re repeating to yourself, no, I’m happy, I’m happy, I’m happy, I’m happy.

Or maybe you know that God has something better for you but for some reason you just can’t let go of what you know isn’t good for you. And maybe you’re a person who wants to develop new friendships but you can’t really shake the belief that I don’t really think people like me that much. And these opposing thoughts they keep coming up again, and again, and again, and again. And you can’t shake them even though you know they aren’t true.

And so when someone like me reminds you that, “Yeah, there is something better for you”, or that, “People actually love you.” You say, “Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know that, I know that.” But you really don’t, you may know on a brainy cognitive level but there is a reason that that keeps coming up for you, those scarcity thoughts, those unlikeable, unlovable, unworthy thoughts, those imposter thoughts. And your mind will argue that it knows it isn’t true. But if you really knew it in the depths of your being it wouldn’t keep coming up like that.

I always say that things reveal themselves so they can heal themselves. And one of the best ways to get to the root of what needs to be healed for you is through coaching. The other thing is that as awesome, and as expanding, as reading and listening to things is, there’s going to come a time where you have to live it like you give it in order to really gain a true understanding.

I believe life is an opportunity for us to experience the heights of our power and our potential. And our mission, if we choose to accept it, is to step out of knowing something that we read in a book or have seen over, and over, and over again on the quotes from your favorite Instagram Inspiration channel to really just kind of step out of knowing that we read and cognitively understand the topic or the theory. And actually be courageous enough to live the experience because that is the only way to go from knowing your power to showing your power.

You may cognitively know you are inherently worthy but are you willing to show up and live worthy when life is presenting to you experiences, and people that tell you that you’re not, when you’ve been overlooked for the third time in a row for a promotion that you really want? Or when you’ve just failed the bar or you’ve just failed your medical boards. You may cognitively know that you are 100% lovable but are you willing to believe that and live it even if you never find your person, even if you never get married, or even if you do find your person and they choose to be unfaithful?

What about in times of scarcity, are you willing to live abundantly? Are you willing to not just know the secrets to life but to fully experience them so that you have pure understanding as well? That is when you know what you know and when what you know will begin to show.

Have an awesome week.

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